WORKSHOP

BDSM FOR BEGINNERS // 6HR LIVE WORKSHOP

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Learn To Bring Kink Into Your Bedroom...
Without Ending Up In the Emergency Room, the Police Station or Divorce Court

Learn The Safe, Sane And Consensual Way to BDSM for Beginners 

In this 6 Hour LIVE Workshop You Will Learn: 

HOW TO BE DOM OR SUB

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CREATING A SAFE SCENE

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LOVING PARTERS IN KINK

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Maybe you're just like me?

Did you ever have that moment in your life, that sudden realisation that maybe you just were't like the other kids?

I guess I have always kind of known I was a bit different - well different from my friends anyway. When they were watching Ferris Buellers Day off I was watching Friday the 13th and loving the thrill of the chase scenes.

But it was about the time I turned 25 that I really started to wonder.

See my girlfriend suggested we try something to spice up our lovelife. Instead of heading to the nearest adult shop and browsing plastic toys like other people might have - I headed to the kitchen to get the large carving knife so we could recreate the chase scene from my favourite horror movie.

(For some reason the thought of chasing her through the park in her underwear, being chased by me playing the part of the knife weilding manic - was somehow just so much hotter to me :)

Needless to say we had a great time that night, but her words she said to me right after struck home hard.

"What the f*ck is wrong with you?"

Now to be fair, she was joking and laughing ... and I had just chased her through a park with a kitchen knife.... 

But even so I learned pretty quick to keep this part of myself a secret.

The more I thought about it, the more I began to be scared of it, afraid it would come out at the wrong time or even worse - seriously hurt someone.

Fast forward to the age of 32 and I am living in Los Angeles and dating a girl who talked about the good times she had in the fetish clubs there when she was younger.

Naturally I was curious and would bug her endlessly to introduce me to other 'weird people' - Dominatrixes or GIMPS were my only ideas of BDSM back then.

I knew if I could talk to some experienced people, they would be able to help me steer through my mental anguish.

But instead of being supportive or helpful, she used the situation to create an unhealthy power imbalance in our relationship which ended up literally driving me to the front door of the local dungeon - on my own - and seeking out the help of the community.

Yep. I stone cold walked up to those big steel doors, plucked up all my courage ... and knocked!

I can tell you the seconds that ticked by while I was standing in front of those huge steel doors waiting for someone to answer were hell. Literally ever fibre in my body was screaming at me to run away from this weird place, and these horrific people.

(I told you I watched a lot of horror right?)

But thank goodness for stubborn courage and determination because...

What I learned that day changed my life!

Immediately and dramatically for the better!

I learned what CONSENT was, and how roles were negotiated not imposed.

I learned that manipulating someone to gain power over them was abuse - not dominance.

I learned that asserting my own needs and wants, limits and interests, was to be applauded not insulted.

But most of all I learned that the part of me I had always been too scared to look at, too weird to talk about, and definitely too weird to be let out of the bag - had a place where it was wanted, accepted and celebrated.

For the first time in my life I felt whole.

Maybe your story is something similar, or maybe you are stuck in a situation where you need to know more but don't know where to turn?

You dont have to go up to the scary Dungeon of Doom and knock on the heavy steel doors anymore :D

I made the decision to do something about it.

Who The Hell Is OTKDADDY And Why SHould I Learn From Him?

That's me in the first pic above, on stage at Club Freak.

I have been active in the BDSM Lifestyle scene since 2004 when I was living in Los Angeles. After fronting up at the North Hollywood Dungeon I met Master Kane and spent a long time learning with him and the Lair de Sade community there.

I spent many years with my mentor Sick Uncle Freddy (second pic with me in the middle, and Tim Polecat from the Polecats on the right - taken at LA Bondage Ball in 2005), who was one of the most respected male Doms in the LA area.

He was a leading performer and educator in the BDSM scene and an infamous sadist, often being flown to conventions to perform such as DomCon, AVNAwards, Hedonism and many more.

His passing is a loss to me personally, and to the community. It was an honour to learn from him for so many years.

I count among my influences and close personal friends many respected teachers and performers from Claifornia such as Sir Nik Satanis from DV8, Sir Orpheus Black from House of Pain, Mistress Erszbet, Mistress Marina from Bar Sinister, Masuimi Max (3rd pic) and Rubberdoll (4th pic) and many more.

In fact it is entirely due to the influence these incredible people and experiences have had on me that I began Club Freak here in Perth in 2012 with the help of my sub at the time Isabeau.

We made the decision to incorporate a short BDSM101 into every event we do as Club Freak, and it's something we continue to do to this day.

I have also lectured on BDSM at Sexpo, presented intro classes at Curtin Uni Sex Week, been interviewed multiple times for press and zines as well as being invited to intimate fireside chats with House of Theodora.

Being a Dom for me is a fulltime life and for me this comes with a responsibility to pass the information and skills I have acquired on to others.

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