BDSM101 WORKSHOP

BDSM101 - BDSM FOR BEGINNERS // 5HR WORKSHOP

Learn The Safe, Sane And Consensual Way into BDSM for Beginners 

Learn The Right Way To Bring Kink Into Your Bedroom...
Without Ending Up In the Emergency Room, the Police Station or Divorce Court

Discover The Safe, Sane And Consensual Way into BDSM for Beginners 

Next Workshop Date: August 24th 2019


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In this 5 Hour LIVE Workshop You Will Learn: 

BDSM 101 FOR BEGINNERS

Everyone starts at the beginning, and we take the journey together.  There is way more to it than any '50 Shades of Grey' book will ever tell you.

HANDS ON WORKSHOP

Theory is great, but this is where you get to actually experience what BDSM is like for yourself.  All the ships, ropes, cuffs and collars and more.

LOVING PARTNERS IN KINK

Introducing kink into your bedroom can be a challenging and rewarding experience if you go about it the right way.  This sections helps make it a smooth process.

WE COVER EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW

OTKDaddy will be presenting 3 Workshops on the day, each one designed to build on the knowledge from the previous session.

First we start with the basics...

Workshop 1: BDSM for Beginners 101 (90 mins)

The first 90 minutes are going to be a deep dive into the basics you need to know to enjoy the hot fantasy of BDSM - without needing an ambulance or the paramedics or the police ... and without ending up in divorce court!

If you have ever wondered how to be a Dom, either male or female - or how to be a submissive - then this workshop is for you.

We will cover:

  • What is Consent and how can it be sexy and spontaneous?
  • Learning the difference between Dominance and Domineering - so you can spot a toxic relationship a mile off, and get out of it!
  • What is a 'Dynamic' and is it the same as a 'Relationship'
  • Is Vanilla a brand of ice-cream?
  • Do I really have to wear this collar thing? What's that all about?
  • SSC, RACK, Scene, Play Partner - please decode the jargon for me so I can play safe
  • What is a Safe Word and when do I use it? Does it mean I have failed?
  • How to create 'Space' for a scene
  • The structure of a Scene - Before, During, Ending and Aftercare
  • How to manage Sub Drop and Top Drop (Yes Dom's get 'drop' too)

Short 15 minute break...

Then we move into the more advanced areas and get our hands on some equipment, so you can learn the actual techniques and skills to play safely.

Workshop 2: Hands On Workshop (90 mins)

It's time to get HANDS ON! This is where you will get familiar with the various implements we use, including whips, floggers, canes, paddles and feather dusters.

  • Impact Play Basics 
  • Warm Up and After Care
  • Rituals and 'Setting the Space'
  • How to 'Hold Dominant Space' for beginners
  • Cleaning Up and Equipment Care
  • Meet My Amazing Cross
  • Cuffs, restraints and being locked down
  • Spanking techniques to excite and ignite
  • The 'Sweet Spot' And How to Find It (yes another 'spot' to find)
  • Why canes 'bite twice'
  • Flogging for warm up, intensity and impact - impress your sub with your dramatic flair skills
  • Single tail whips and high intensity pain sensations
  • Sharp edges and points for immediate focus and endorphins
  • How to take your sub on a 'roller coaster' - its not all about the impact!

Longer 30 minute break...

Feel free to bring your own toys if you like, but there will be a full selection of implements to explore with on hand.

Workshop 3: Loving Partners in Kink (90 mins)

Not everyone starts their journey with the luxury of having a supportive, understanding and kinky partner, so here's where we explore the best way to introduce kink into your life and bedroom.

  • How to bring kink into your bedroom without causing a fight or ending up in divorce court!
  • What if you are kinky but your partner isnt interested?
  • What to do when your kinks are not compatible?
  • Opening up negotiation and exploring limits
  • What is 24/7 Total Power Exchange and is it for you?
  • What to expect at a Play Party - at someone's private residence
  • What to expect at a Public Party
  • Behaviour and etiquette at Events
  • Safe Dates for meeting new Play Partners

Short 15 minute break...

Extended Question and Answers

Although we will be answering your questions throughout, the remaining time at the end is when OTKDaddy can zero in on the specific issues or questions you are facing.  Setting off on your kink journey is not always easy, in fact it can be extremely hard coming out to a partner or family or friends.  We set this time aside to listen to your situation and come up with workable solutions for you to apply in your own life. 

Light refreshments will be provided, and a full bar is available throughout.

Who The Hell Is OTKDADDY And Why SHould I Learn From Him?

That's me in the first pic above, on stage at Club Freak.

I have been active in the BDSM Lifestyle scene since 2004 when I was living in Los Angeles. After fronting up at the North Hollywood Dungeon I met Master Kane and spent a long time learning with him and the Lair de Sade community there.

I spent many years with my mentor Sick Uncle Freddy (second pic with me in the middle, and Tim Polecat from the Polecats on the right - taken at LA Bondage Ball in 2005), who was one of the most respected male Doms in the LA area.

He was a leading performer and educator in the BDSM scene and an infamous sadist, often being flown to conventions to perform such as DomCon, AVNAwards, Hedonism and many more.

His passing is a loss to me personally, and to the community. It was an honour to learn from him for so many years.

I count among my influences and close personal friends many respected teachers and performers from Claifornia such as Sir Nik Satanis from DV8, Sir Orpheus Black from House of Pain, Mistress Erszbet, Mistress Marina from Bar Sinister, Masuimi Max (3rd pic) and Rubberdoll (4th pic) and many more.

In fact it is entirely due to the influence these incredible people and experiences have had on me that I began Club Freak here in Perth in 2012 with the help of my sub at the time Isabeau.

We made the decision to incorporate a short BDSM101 into every event we do as Club Freak, and it's something we continue to do to this day.

I have also lectured on BDSM at Sexpo, presented intro classes at Curtin Uni Sex Week, been interviewed multiple times for press and zines as well as being invited to intimate fireside chats with House of Theodora.

Being a Dom for me is a fulltime life and for me this comes with a responsibility to pass the information and skills I have acquired on to others.

Maybe you're just like me?

Did you ever have that moment in your life, that sudden realisation that maybe you just were't like the other kids?

I guess I have always kind of known I was a bit different - well different from my friends anyway. When they were watching Ferris Buellers Day off I was watching Friday the 13th and loving the thrill of the chase scenes.

But it was about the time I turned 25 that I really started to wonder.

See my girlfriend suggested we try something to spice up our lovelife. Instead of heading to the nearest adult shop and browsing plastic toys like other people might have - I headed to the kitchen to get the large carving knife so we could recreate the chase scene from my favourite horror movie.

(For some reason the thought of chasing her through the park in her underwear, being chased by me playing the part of the knife weilding manic - was somehow just so much hotter to me :)

Needless to say we had a great time that night, but her words she said to me right after struck home hard.

"What the f*ck is wrong with you?"

Now to be fair, she was joking and laughing ... and I had just chased her through a park with a kitchen knife.... 

But even so I learned pretty quick to keep this part of myself a secret.

The more I thought about it, the more I began to be scared of it, afraid it would come out at the wrong time or even worse - seriously hurt someone.

Fast forward to the age of 32 and I am living in Los Angeles and dating a girl who talked about the good times she had in the fetish clubs there when she was younger.

Naturally I was curious and would bug her endlessly to introduce me to other 'weird people' - Dominatrixes or GIMPS were my only ideas of BDSM back then.

I knew if I could talk to some experienced people, they would be able to help me steer through my mental anguish.

But instead of being supportive or helpful, she used the situation to create an unhealthy power imbalance in our relationship which ended up literally driving me to the front door of the local dungeon - on my own - and seeking out the help of the community.

Yep. I stone cold walked up to those big steel doors, plucked up all my courage ... and knocked!

I can tell you the seconds that ticked by while I was standing in front of those huge steel doors waiting for someone to answer were hell. Literally ever fibre in my body was screaming at me to run away from this weird place, and these horrific people.

(I told you I watched a lot of horror right?)

But thank goodness for stubborn courage and determination because...

What I learned that day changed my life!

Immediately and dramatically for the better!

I learned what CONSENT was, and how roles were negotiated not imposed.

I learned that manipulating someone to gain power over them was abuse - not dominance.

I learned that asserting my own needs and wants, limits and interests, was to be applauded not insulted.

But most of all I learned that the part of me I had always been too scared to look at, too weird to talk about, and definitely too weird to be let out of the bag - had a place where it was wanted, accepted and celebrated.

For the first time in my life I felt whole.

Maybe your story is something similar, or maybe you are stuck in a situation where you need to know more but don't know where to turn?

You dont have to go up to the scary Dungeon of Doom and knock on the heavy steel doors anymore :D

Make the decision to do something about it.